General update

[luzula]

1) My Chocolate Box fic is going well, but I ended up not signing up for the Worldbuilding Exchange after all. I mean, it's the first time I do a non-Yuletide exchange at all, better not overdo it, especially as I am quite busy otherwise. I might do a treat for Chocolate Box though.

2) One of my flatmates has started dating a woman with a kid (maybe three years old) who comes along to our apartment, and I find myself bothered by this, and simultaneously feeling selfish for being bothered. : / But I have chosen not have kids myself, and I don't want to live with kids, and I don't feel relaxed hanging out in the living room with this kid running around. So then I retreat into my room. Also tonight I had gone to bed and then the kid started crying. I don't mind if kids visit us occasionally, but they stayed over Saturday-Sunday and now again Tuesday. Maybe I am worrying prematurely about this--I mean, they just started seeing each other and who knows if it is going to last. But it's a potential conflict, and we've really had no conflict since we moved in three years ago. Am I overreacting? Anyone with experience of conflict around kids in shared housing?

3) I just bought new cross-country skis! \o/ My old pair were twenty years old and quite worn out and the ski boots hurt my feet (who knows if it's my feet or the boots that changed--or more likely it's my orthopedic inlays). These skis are broader and have steel edges. I am thinking of going skiing around Easter; I'm really looking forward to it.

Comments

[seascribble]

When I started talking about having a kid, my roommates made it very clear that they loved me, but no way in hell were they going to live with any age child. I think that's a reasonable expectation, if you entered into a living situation with no children. Presumably the child has a home where it lives full time? Most of the together time, and certainly the overnights should be there.
I don't think it's unreasonable to want and express those things.

[luzula]

Thanks for the input! They are still here and I just saw her move two huge suitcases into his room. I have a bad feeling about this.

I've been really busy the last week or so and do not have any energy for tackling this right now. But I guess I will have to soon.

[mergatrude]

I'm really surprised that your flatmate hasn't discussed this with you first! That's really bad manners. I mean, you can't adopt an animal without discussing it first, and moving another human being into your shared living space, even if it were only a singular adult and even if it's only temporary, is more serious than that.

I think you need to ask them what is going on, as a "living together" team and set some ground rules.

[luzula]

I did bring it up this morning. He said that they didn't have anywhere to live and had been kicked out of their hostel because the kid made noise, and that it was only for a few days while they found somewhere new. I said he should have asked first, but that it was okay with me if it was only a few days. But I will really have to follow up with this so that "a few days" does not stretch into "a few weeks". Also I will check in with the others to see what they think.

Also somewhat unclear if they are dating. He first said they'd met on Tinder, which is why I assumed they were dating at first.

[mergatrude]

I hope that it resolves quickly and amicably for all of you.

[luzula]

Thanks! Well, I talked with the others now, and we all said to him that he should have asked first, and that it was okay for a few days, but not longer.