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Living situation woes
May. 16th, 2021 09:48 pmI've been living with my parents a lot lately because I have a different tolerance for covid risk than my flatmates. My flatmate N is doing their internship (I suppose is the word?) at a preschool during their preschool teacher training during May, which, lots of risk. And now N has said that they are moving, with their dogs. : ( I knew this would happen sooner or later, because they had told me they were looking for a more dog-friendly neighborhood. It still made me sad.
But I was not prepared for flatmate P moving after the summer as well. He said he wanted a more social living environment, which I'm not sure what to do with. When we have planned social activities in the past, it's always hard to find times when he can schedule something, because he's so busy! So I just feel like, fine, what is wrong with me that you don't want to live with me? Should I feel bad about living with my parents so much during the pandemic, because otherwise it might not have happened? But it's not like anything good would come out of asking him that. Flatmate number four has fairly recently moved in and seems like a good guy, but he was away a lot during the winter and now I'm away a lot, so we don't know each other well. But we've talked about finding new people in the fall.
I feel a bit...abandoned and unmoored, I suppose? : ( Hugs welcome.
I talked with my oldest and best friend, who wants to move back to town eventually, and she told me she would love it if we could find some sort of two-apartment house and live together. She has a husband and small kids. That would certainly be different? I don't want kids myself, but I do crave continuity right now, and it would be great to live close to her. Well, this is just an idle thought right now.
On top of this, my mom was lamenting that my sister and I won't be taking over the summer place after she's gone. Which is of course not decided yet! But my mom is drawing this conclusion because I don't have a driving licence and my sister lives some distance away. Which I guess there is some truth in. Augh, I didn't need that to think about on top of everything else. /o\
But I was not prepared for flatmate P moving after the summer as well. He said he wanted a more social living environment, which I'm not sure what to do with. When we have planned social activities in the past, it's always hard to find times when he can schedule something, because he's so busy! So I just feel like, fine, what is wrong with me that you don't want to live with me? Should I feel bad about living with my parents so much during the pandemic, because otherwise it might not have happened? But it's not like anything good would come out of asking him that. Flatmate number four has fairly recently moved in and seems like a good guy, but he was away a lot during the winter and now I'm away a lot, so we don't know each other well. But we've talked about finding new people in the fall.
I feel a bit...abandoned and unmoored, I suppose? : ( Hugs welcome.
I talked with my oldest and best friend, who wants to move back to town eventually, and she told me she would love it if we could find some sort of two-apartment house and live together. She has a husband and small kids. That would certainly be different? I don't want kids myself, but I do crave continuity right now, and it would be great to live close to her. Well, this is just an idle thought right now.
On top of this, my mom was lamenting that my sister and I won't be taking over the summer place after she's gone. Which is of course not decided yet! But my mom is drawing this conclusion because I don't have a driving licence and my sister lives some distance away. Which I guess there is some truth in. Augh, I didn't need that to think about on top of everything else. /o\
