Two weird conversations

[luzula]

M, from another environmental organization, calls me on the phone: "I've been trying to reach L. I'm really frustrated by how she's been going about this collaborative process. And J, who has worked with these issues a long time, is feeling really sidelined, and like L is steamrolling her. Can you tell L to call me? But don't tell anyone what I said about J!"

Whereupon I call L, who is in my environmental organization: "I can't see what she thinks is unclear about this process! These things that she complained about, I have have emailed her about them. And I'm working closely with J, and honestly, she thinks M is acting weird! But of course I'm not going to tell M so. I'll call her."

What is going on here?? And I can't really confront them with the discrepancy in their view of J, because they were both saying those things in confidence! *throws up hands*

Well, I hope they can work it out...