Real life update
Aug. 9th, 2012 08:19 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
luzulaRight, I figure it's time for a RL update.
1) I am employed again, after my intermittent unemployment. It's not permanent, though--I have full-time university teaching through January, but after that I don't know. My courses seem kind of boring: mostly high-school level math, which I have never actually taught before. Might be a challenge, though, to explain things on a lower level than I'm used to. And then in December I have the same calculus course as I had last year.
2) I have a new roommate! The guy I liked least among the people I share an apartment with moved out, and a dear friend of mine moved in. I am delighted to be living with him. \o/
3) I am now in an open relationship, mostly because of kink mismatch. It's been going well so far (for three months or so), and I don't seem to have any problems with jealousy. It's mostly my boyfriend who's been with someone else (except, y'know, for me making out with fangirls at the spin-the-bottle party at Bitching Party). We'll see what happens.
Relatedly, why is there so little fic with V-type relationships? Almost all the fic with several characters involved in a relationship seems to be triangle-type OT3 fic. Why?
4) There was a weird exhibitionist guy masturbating in the woods that I like to walk in every evening. Arrgh. I wasn't afraid of him or anything, but I do want to be able to walk there without seeing un-asked-for masturbation. And I don't know if I should be afraid. Should I?
5) I finished Jo Walton's Among Others and, predictably, loved it. ♥ Also, I finally caved and ordered Lifelode, even though I had to get it from the US. Next book to read: Rosemary Sutcliff's The Silver Branch.
6) I'm reccing due South at![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
crack_van this month, so check out my recs.
7) Augh, my Midsummer fic. *flails* Please remind me to write if you see me on gmail.
1) I am employed again, after my intermittent unemployment. It's not permanent, though--I have full-time university teaching through January, but after that I don't know. My courses seem kind of boring: mostly high-school level math, which I have never actually taught before. Might be a challenge, though, to explain things on a lower level than I'm used to. And then in December I have the same calculus course as I had last year.
2) I have a new roommate! The guy I liked least among the people I share an apartment with moved out, and a dear friend of mine moved in. I am delighted to be living with him. \o/
3) I am now in an open relationship, mostly because of kink mismatch. It's been going well so far (for three months or so), and I don't seem to have any problems with jealousy. It's mostly my boyfriend who's been with someone else (except, y'know, for me making out with fangirls at the spin-the-bottle party at Bitching Party). We'll see what happens.
Relatedly, why is there so little fic with V-type relationships? Almost all the fic with several characters involved in a relationship seems to be triangle-type OT3 fic. Why?
4) There was a weird exhibitionist guy masturbating in the woods that I like to walk in every evening. Arrgh. I wasn't afraid of him or anything, but I do want to be able to walk there without seeing un-asked-for masturbation. And I don't know if I should be afraid. Should I?
5) I finished Jo Walton's Among Others and, predictably, loved it. ♥ Also, I finally caved and ordered Lifelode, even though I had to get it from the US. Next book to read: Rosemary Sutcliff's The Silver Branch.
6) I'm reccing due South at
crack_van this month, so check out my recs. 7) Augh, my Midsummer fic. *flails* Please remind me to write if you see me on gmail.
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Date: 2012-08-09 09:47 pm (UTC)I think because fandom is essentially conservative in some ways and also because there's a lot of author-insertion. I think V-type relationship are, in some ways, the scariest types of relationships, because they can lead to a lot of insecurity if you don't feel like you're at the center. Just my suspicion. Also, I think because fandom has a tendency to make Happy Families and to want everyone to live in the same house and have babies and... yeah.
I would not walk there anymore... at least not alone. Sometimes that sort of behavior is just creepy and exhibitionist, but flashing--and particularly this kind of thing--can be gateway behavior into escalation (ie. committing a sex crime).
I haven't read any of those books, so thanks for the recs.
Good luck on Midsummer! I don't even know what you're writing or if I'm supposed to know that. I am so absent lately. :( Still, I look forward to seeing the finished product. (Also, I have been listening to so much podfic while putting Ikea furniture together. So much furniture. Thank you for that, too!)
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Date: 2012-08-11 09:01 pm (UTC)I think because fandom is essentially conservative in some ways and also because there's a lot of author-insertion.
Yeah, there's a way in which that is true...I mean, just the fact that so much fic revolves around Romance and True Love Forever. Hmm.
I would not walk there anymore... at least not alone.
Arrgh, it just makes me angry, because he shouldn't have the power to drive me out of there. But maybe I'll at least keep to the paths and not actually walk into the woods.
I rec pretty much anything Jo Walton has written, actually. She's so good!
Good luck on Midsummer! I don't even know what you're writing or if I'm supposed to know that.
Actually, you're not supposed to know! It's a secret exchange. : )
Also, I am editing together a podfic collaboration right now which I think you might enjoy when it's done. It's had me wading through lots of WWII radio clips to find story-relevant ones, because we're using them as scene-separators (the story is Omphale's "Horseshoes and Hand Grenades").
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